Okay, in my previous post about my history and finding myself I said that I don’t hate my ex for the things that took place. And I don’t, and I do forgive him, but I can’t lie guys, I am human and there are time where I feel a twinge of bitterness towards him. Bitterness, anger, and even envy. All these things are awful, and part of my human, dark, and twisty parts. God is helping me with these parts of who I am.
Bitterness, my feelings of bitterness come from the fact that I gave him my youth, I spent 8 years with the wrong person. And in that time he stripped me down to nothingness, all that I was when I met him was destroyed. And then I had no choice but to leave, and have literally nothing while starting out all over again to raise my children alone and re build myself. Also, after the birth of our second child he had convinced me to get my tubes tied. I am mostly upset about this above all. If he wishes to remarry some day he can have more children, and I can too, but only after an elective and expensive surgery If God sees fit to give me someone else and they want children, Id like to be able to give them that without such extremes. But, it is what it is, and God will pull me through whatever happens.
My envy comes from the fact that he moved away and back to his family who supports him. He left a high paying, responsible web job, to go basically get to go back and be 18 again as a pizza delivery person. And his, stereotypically younger than myself and him, girlfriend moved with him. So I envy that he has it so easy. Nearly no responsibility again, a chance to regain that youth he lost with me, and to top it off he’s not alone. But again, it is what it is, and God will give me what he wants me to have when he sees fit. Maybe I need to grow up a bit more before I get those things.
All this aside, I don’t like to speak ill of people. My ex and I could not make it work, for many reasons, and these are all my feelings I have spilled out here you all. He is not a terrible person. He does love his children, he does pay child support, and it may not be much, but he does see them when he can. I can’t take that away from him.
Okay, so I’m human, but I am working on these dark and twisty feelings, because I don’t like to wast time on being negative. Happiness and joy are feelings I would much rather consume my heart and mind, and God has helped me tremendously with that. 🙂
PS I got caught in a rant and didn’t mention the most important part. The Sweet part to this occasion. That being my two wonderful children. Without my ex, and without those years together I wouldn’t have them, the most important things in my life 🙂
Hello everyone, my name is Heather. I am a single mom of my 2 wonderful children. My son is 4 and my daughter is nearly 3 🙂 I live in a suburban area of Charleston, WV. The 3 of us live alone in our lovely apartment, its nothing much but anything is lovely when filled with love :).
I’ve mulled over beginning a blog for over a year now, a year, can you believe that? Talk about procrastination guys haha, I am the queen of procrastination. So, anyway, my kid’s father and I split up just over a year ago, our divorce has only been since April, 2012. We had been married 7 years. Once again, can you believe that? Whew, long time, but I try not to be bitter because, it was a mixture of good and bad.
You know what I mean, like without him I wouldn’t have my two kids, or have learned things I learned. I mean, it totally sucks that I lost that time with the wrong person, but I try to find the silver lining. [yeah I’m one of those people lol, I try to be optimistic, but stay with me, you’ll see the dark and twisty complainer in me too, promise]
Oh, no worries that was just one of my random rants where my head lost where I was going with a topic. It happens 🙂 So, my point was, since I currently have to physically raise my children alone, and be alone most of the time; I’d like you to join me on this adventure of starting over in life. So come with me on my roller coaster. We can laugh and cry together. Maybe I can give you some tips and maybe you can give me some too 🙂
This should be lots of fun, thanks guys.